Role of the Parents
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Our coaching staffs are against a “win-at-all-cost” mentality. A win-at-all-cost coach has
only one goal – to win. We share that goal, of course, but also have a second goal that
is even more important – to use the sports experience to help your children learn life
most important issue. We will always strive to win, but even more importantly, we will use
the game of lacrosse and the practicing/training to reach a goal to hopefully teach your
children life lessons. We coach using positive techniques, and also by setting high
standards and expectations.
We expect parents to:
*Get their players to practice and games on time. Be on time to pick up your child from all
games and practices. This shows respect for the coach so that they are not cutting into
their own personal time waiting on you.
*Understand that winners are people who make maximum effort, continue to learn and
improve, and do not let mistakes, or fear of making mistakes, stop them. Understand that
mistakes are inevitable parts of any game and that people learn from their mistakes.
Understand that children are born with different abilities and that the true measure is not
how your child compares to others but how he/she is doing in comparison to his/herself.
*"Honor the Game." Understand the importance of setting a good example for your child.
No matter what others may do, show respect for all involved in the game including
coaches, players, opponents, opposing fans, and officials. Most of all, understand that
officials make mistakes and the coaches are sure prone to make mistakes as well. If the
official makes a "bad" call against our team; please Honor the Game and be silent! If you
are not silent, you will be asked to leave the area by the area or board member. Yelling at
the refs, other team’s coaches or players, our coaches or players, etc. WILL NOT BE
TOLERATED IN ANY SHAPE OR FORM! There is a time and place for discussions about
problems.
Refrain from yelling out instructions to your child. This is the coach's job. Understand that
games are chaotic times for children trying to deal with fast-paced action and respond to
opponents, teammates and coaches. Parents are NOT allowed on the field, immediately
behind the bench (this includes standing at the fence behind either team), and/or to
instruct their children during games or at practice.
PLAYING TIME AND COACHING DECISIONS
Another negative in youth sports is that the parents often feel they know what is best for
their child regarding playing time or positions. Unless you are an official coach, you are
unable to participate in the decision making of playing time.
Playing time is dependent upon many issues such as: attendance at practices,
commitment to the team, attitude towards the coaches and other players, attention at the
games, and the understanding of the game. Depending on the nature of the game, a
combination above along with skill may also determine playing time of course. Parents
need to be patient. Some players may get more playing time than others in certain games
and there is usually a good reason for it. While a player may not see much playing time
during one particular game, another game may be different, and vice versa. Players that
do not attend practices regularly and are not picking up the game and skills will not see
the playing field as often.
No player is guaranteed a starting position or a specific position before the season even
begins. Each season, the slate is wiped clean, and the players need to prove themselves
again as to their abilities. Children progress at different levels, and everyone should have
the opportunity to start over and have an equal opportunity. The coaches make the
ultimate decisions as to positions. Players need to understand that what they play
one season may differ from future seasons and not to be discouraged if they
are not playing a position that is their first choice. Some players have the ability
to play several positions well, but we place them at a position where they best
serve the team for that season and where he/she will see the most playing time!
24-HOUR RULE
If a parent becomes angered over any issue during a game, they are directed to follow
the 24-hour rule that has been instilled in many high school athletic handbooks, including
Chartiers Valley, and many sports organizations across the nation. Approaching a coach
over issues in a heated manner will never resolve anything and can lead to unnecessary
arguing and things said that couldn’t be taken back. On top of this, this is a terrible
example to set for the kids. Often times, sitting on the issue for the 24-hour allotted time
will prove to help see things from a different perspective. Please wait 24 hours, and then
attempt to schedule a meeting with the coach, send an email, or place a phone call if you
still feel upset. In any manner you choose after the 24-hour period, the concern should
be addressed in a mature, professional manner. Refer to your handbook for more
information on this.
only one goal – to win. We share that goal, of course, but also have a second goal that
is even more important – to use the sports experience to help your children learn life
most important issue. We will always strive to win, but even more importantly, we will use
the game of lacrosse and the practicing/training to reach a goal to hopefully teach your
children life lessons. We coach using positive techniques, and also by setting high
standards and expectations.
We expect parents to:
*Get their players to practice and games on time. Be on time to pick up your child from all
games and practices. This shows respect for the coach so that they are not cutting into
their own personal time waiting on you.
*Understand that winners are people who make maximum effort, continue to learn and
improve, and do not let mistakes, or fear of making mistakes, stop them. Understand that
mistakes are inevitable parts of any game and that people learn from their mistakes.
Understand that children are born with different abilities and that the true measure is not
how your child compares to others but how he/she is doing in comparison to his/herself.
*"Honor the Game." Understand the importance of setting a good example for your child.
No matter what others may do, show respect for all involved in the game including
coaches, players, opponents, opposing fans, and officials. Most of all, understand that
officials make mistakes and the coaches are sure prone to make mistakes as well. If the
official makes a "bad" call against our team; please Honor the Game and be silent! If you
are not silent, you will be asked to leave the area by the area or board member. Yelling at
the refs, other team’s coaches or players, our coaches or players, etc. WILL NOT BE
TOLERATED IN ANY SHAPE OR FORM! There is a time and place for discussions about
problems.
Refrain from yelling out instructions to your child. This is the coach's job. Understand that
games are chaotic times for children trying to deal with fast-paced action and respond to
opponents, teammates and coaches. Parents are NOT allowed on the field, immediately
behind the bench (this includes standing at the fence behind either team), and/or to
instruct their children during games or at practice.
PLAYING TIME AND COACHING DECISIONS
Another negative in youth sports is that the parents often feel they know what is best for
their child regarding playing time or positions. Unless you are an official coach, you are
unable to participate in the decision making of playing time.
Playing time is dependent upon many issues such as: attendance at practices,
commitment to the team, attitude towards the coaches and other players, attention at the
games, and the understanding of the game. Depending on the nature of the game, a
combination above along with skill may also determine playing time of course. Parents
need to be patient. Some players may get more playing time than others in certain games
and there is usually a good reason for it. While a player may not see much playing time
during one particular game, another game may be different, and vice versa. Players that
do not attend practices regularly and are not picking up the game and skills will not see
the playing field as often.
No player is guaranteed a starting position or a specific position before the season even
begins. Each season, the slate is wiped clean, and the players need to prove themselves
again as to their abilities. Children progress at different levels, and everyone should have
the opportunity to start over and have an equal opportunity. The coaches make the
ultimate decisions as to positions. Players need to understand that what they play
one season may differ from future seasons and not to be discouraged if they
are not playing a position that is their first choice. Some players have the ability
to play several positions well, but we place them at a position where they best
serve the team for that season and where he/she will see the most playing time!
24-HOUR RULE
If a parent becomes angered over any issue during a game, they are directed to follow
the 24-hour rule that has been instilled in many high school athletic handbooks, including
Chartiers Valley, and many sports organizations across the nation. Approaching a coach
over issues in a heated manner will never resolve anything and can lead to unnecessary
arguing and things said that couldn’t be taken back. On top of this, this is a terrible
example to set for the kids. Often times, sitting on the issue for the 24-hour allotted time
will prove to help see things from a different perspective. Please wait 24 hours, and then
attempt to schedule a meeting with the coach, send an email, or place a phone call if you
still feel upset. In any manner you choose after the 24-hour period, the concern should
be addressed in a mature, professional manner. Refer to your handbook for more
information on this.